The only issue I see and they don't include or ever talk about is there personnel problem is nearly 93% of men and women who has Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) serving in the military in war (for example Vietnam War), can cause a lot more damage which is far greater in there own family from mental, physical and verbal abuse and I'm one of them too since my father who has PTSD for more than 50 years this is why I'm going through Veterans and Veterans Families Counselling Service (VVCS).
I have 35 plus years of PTSD dealing with my father and I'm going through VVCS which is not very easy to talk about it which is too painful and I am a shame for not helping myself, also while my father having cancer treatment for Prostate and while my parents are getting divorced because my mother have had enough of nearly 50 years of mental, physical and verbal abuse and I do fully understand the real reason is why. My father refused to get help for nearly 50 years of silent since Vietnam War for not going through Veterans and Veterans Families Counselling Service (VVCS), this has cause so much damage within my own family which cannot be fixed because the bottle is dead full. Any way is a very very long story.
I strongly beg of you.... If you know someone who served in the military who has PTSD and there veterans families is never too late to get help from Veterans and Veterans Families Counselling Service (VVCS), for those who have suffer too much mental, physical and verbal abuse.
Mental health is an issue for men from all walks of life, the strong men who have fought for our way of life to our children, about a decade ago I attended the funeral of a friends son, we trained martial arts togeather, we worked in his dads shop togeather, he was 13 years old when he passed.
Guys, we need to look out for each other; It’s really important, have those hard conversations with your mates, hold them to a high standard.
Be better.
Hear hear!
I'm 48 hours into assisting a friend who's the victim of domestic violence upon many levels from a guy I consider a brother to another mother.
I've known the fella since day dot at school.
He has changed in the last few years and whilst I know I've reached out, offered support etc, I still feel guilt for not being enough of a difference in his life to help him prevent this downward spiral.
Now his father, a former supermax governor, is devastated after I informed and first hand showed him the evidence of his son's behaviour.
His son will no longer be a part of his infant child's life, he will end up with a criminal record, the relationship between him and anyone that cares about him has been decimated before hand and this will likely sever it with the rest and I fear that either he is going to jump The Gap or use drugs as an escape mechanism.
Please, if you're struggling, reach out for a hand up, there is far more shame in being too cowardly to ask, than showing the strength to admit you would appreciate a hand.
I used to see no other men outside work. Then I got dobbed in to play social hockey midweek. That morphed into a full winter team last year. For the first time in my life I hang out with other blokes, play sport and we grab a BBQ and beers after when playing home games. We talk a lot of shit, but I hear a lot of subtext in the banter that many feel stressed at work, and unappreciated at home.
I got 3 kids too, but you need some time to yourself, even just an afternoon a week. There's too much social pressure on men today to be everything to everyone, all the time. Especially the pressure to be the ultimate Dad. Some of us are overcompensating for living with Dad's who were always at work, or distant. I find it's fairly common experience in men of my age.
My Son's school has a fathering project, where they put on talk by local celeb Dad's every few months and you get to talk Fatherhood with other blokes you don't really know. Everyone is trying really hard to do it well. But the project is not about that, it's about trying a little more, a little more often, instead of trying to be the best Dad ever, all the time. It's a ridiculous idea that it's even achievable. It's one of the many things that can causes mental issues.
In a lot of ways, I feel that socially and politically corrected behaviour, with thanks to the Wowsers, resulted in the death knell of the Aussie
Larrikan, had a lot to play in this.
I've had conversations with formerly active members here that cite the wowser mentality creeping into this site as the predominant reason their activity here has decreased or stopped.
It killed off a lot of outlets for us Men and left us feeling shame and selfish for putting ourselves first every now and again.
How we can find what we've recently lost, I don't know, yet hopefully open and frank discussions like this will help.
With this in mind, how do others feel about a section in the forum where we all can go when life is getting to us and simply either offload or ask for suggestions?
Perhaps "The Bar"? would be suitable?
Or would this section be suffice with perhaps an appropriate tag option?
